Goal setting: why doesn't it work for me!?
Goal Setting, a subject so widely taught in seminars, programs, sports and even schools, has been very much studied and tested everywhere. Why is goal setting so important? And how exactly does it work? Why do some people get more out of goal setting than others?
I do not know about people in general, but as a person i've always wanted something every day in mylife. Not that i'm never satisfied with anything, its just that once i achieved something, there'll be another challenge that call for more of me, and it really makes me want it. Goal setting has been a really powerful tool not just for me but also for many poeple whom i know.
Our mind is a very powerful powerful tool as my dear friend and mentor Brent Williams once told me. He taught me that the mind has a function called the recticular activating system (RAS), and this system acts like an awareness machine. It keeps track of what is important and filters out all other things that are not. What happened was at the Empower U program one or two years back i wrote down a list of one hundred things i wanted to get done and i just looked at the list a moment ago and guess what? i only got three of those goals not fufilled! That is 97% improvement in what i wanted two years ago. (now i have another list)
Goal setting not only raises awareness of what one wants and needs to know or get done about something, it also motivates how people live each day. I meann i'll wake up more energetic each day when i know what i want and i know that there's something i could do to work towards achieving it. However there's one thing that made me want to post this subject on antiphons. Even though many people have do goal setting, few people succeed. So this post is to address the question of goal setting and why it doesn't work for me?!
There three reasons why goal setting doesn't work for some people and these three reasons form the three foundations of goal setting. And they are: Awareness, Feasibilitty and Weight. Awareness as we talked about earlier plays a very important role, to fulfill this one has to not just think about it but write it down. Writing it down is you telling your brain that it is important. One very good idea is that of having a dream book or a goal setting book, write everything down you want inside it and make it detailed, paste pictures and illustrations of the things you want or would like to achieve. Take it out as often as you can and look at it, add more things to it and it'll really raise your awareness and motivate you to do whatever you need to to get it.
Feasibility is the logical scaling of the thing that you want and when you want it. Very importantly the goal you set must be with a deadline. With that you've got to ask yourself can i actually do it from now to that time? Can i complete everything that needs to be done in that amount of time? Its good to dream big but at the same time you have to be on the ground to how and when you'll get it.
Lastly, Weight. Weight is what i view as the most important thing you got to have if you really want your goal setting to work. Weight can be how much importance you put in what you wrote down. People write down many many things in thier life, and what distincts those who have what trhey wrote down in the end is how much weight they put into the goal. Weight is how badly you want something and how much you need it in your life. Don't go: oh if this was in my life i would be happier. Put weight on your goals. I remember three years back when i was attending a the Superteen camp, Dr Ernest Wong, also my good friend and mentor brought up a young man on the stage. And there and then he told everyone that this young man was going to be in the olympics in 2008 for the wushu section. Even though 2008 is not yet here, the last of what i heard of that guy was he was already a champion in shan shou Singapore. Not everyone would prefer to tell everyone what they dream of having but that is an example of puttingf lots of weight on what one wants.
The next time you set a goal, think about the three things: awareness, feasibility and weight.
I do not know about people in general, but as a person i've always wanted something every day in mylife. Not that i'm never satisfied with anything, its just that once i achieved something, there'll be another challenge that call for more of me, and it really makes me want it. Goal setting has been a really powerful tool not just for me but also for many poeple whom i know.
Our mind is a very powerful powerful tool as my dear friend and mentor Brent Williams once told me. He taught me that the mind has a function called the recticular activating system (RAS), and this system acts like an awareness machine. It keeps track of what is important and filters out all other things that are not. What happened was at the Empower U program one or two years back i wrote down a list of one hundred things i wanted to get done and i just looked at the list a moment ago and guess what? i only got three of those goals not fufilled! That is 97% improvement in what i wanted two years ago. (now i have another list)
Goal setting not only raises awareness of what one wants and needs to know or get done about something, it also motivates how people live each day. I meann i'll wake up more energetic each day when i know what i want and i know that there's something i could do to work towards achieving it. However there's one thing that made me want to post this subject on antiphons. Even though many people have do goal setting, few people succeed. So this post is to address the question of goal setting and why it doesn't work for me?!
There three reasons why goal setting doesn't work for some people and these three reasons form the three foundations of goal setting. And they are: Awareness, Feasibilitty and Weight. Awareness as we talked about earlier plays a very important role, to fulfill this one has to not just think about it but write it down. Writing it down is you telling your brain that it is important. One very good idea is that of having a dream book or a goal setting book, write everything down you want inside it and make it detailed, paste pictures and illustrations of the things you want or would like to achieve. Take it out as often as you can and look at it, add more things to it and it'll really raise your awareness and motivate you to do whatever you need to to get it.
Feasibility is the logical scaling of the thing that you want and when you want it. Very importantly the goal you set must be with a deadline. With that you've got to ask yourself can i actually do it from now to that time? Can i complete everything that needs to be done in that amount of time? Its good to dream big but at the same time you have to be on the ground to how and when you'll get it.
Lastly, Weight. Weight is what i view as the most important thing you got to have if you really want your goal setting to work. Weight can be how much importance you put in what you wrote down. People write down many many things in thier life, and what distincts those who have what trhey wrote down in the end is how much weight they put into the goal. Weight is how badly you want something and how much you need it in your life. Don't go: oh if this was in my life i would be happier. Put weight on your goals. I remember three years back when i was attending a the Superteen camp, Dr Ernest Wong, also my good friend and mentor brought up a young man on the stage. And there and then he told everyone that this young man was going to be in the olympics in 2008 for the wushu section. Even though 2008 is not yet here, the last of what i heard of that guy was he was already a champion in shan shou Singapore. Not everyone would prefer to tell everyone what they dream of having but that is an example of puttingf lots of weight on what one wants.
The next time you set a goal, think about the three things: awareness, feasibility and weight.
posted by Steven at 6:45 PM
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