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Saturday, August 27, 2011

2011 resolutions?

Hi imaginary readers lol.. I'm really going to start blogging more ok? Well actually i might move my blog to another account. I was actually quite surprised that google and blogspot sort of merged.. and now all my accounts is attached to sctaervmeenn@hotmail.com which i do not really use anymore (for good reasons).

There has been a lot going on in my life recently.. Good and bad. So life has been exciting. (:

Let's see.. in point form here is what has been going on.

- Still working at MindChamps as a persenter for Empower U and YC
- Flew to Indonesia and Shanghai for Empower U
- Have been taking driving lessons
- Learnt about time and how easily it can be wasted
- Gamed a little (maybe to some people i gamed a lot)
- Got a little bit overweight
- Finished Sun down marathon
- Preparing for Standard Chartered Marathon
- Getting serious about Business (Network Marketing)
- Went to Train the Trainer by T Harv Eker
- Voted in Singapore for the first time
- Voted again in the same year
- Got into a relationship..

About that last point, yes i fell in love with a really wonderful girl. She is the sweetest person i've ever known in my life. I'm falling for her more and more each day because she has the biggest heart in the whole world and really cares for people. And there's just too much to say in one blog post about her. It wasn't easy though. I had to be really sincere and take it really slow. I'm glad that we are together now cos i can really see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl (yes now i know how that feels). It feels amazing.

Anyways let me think about whether i want to start another blog or totally scrap the blogging. Because it is not a bad idea to have a website of my own right? hahaha.. stay tuned imaginery readers! :)

Loves.



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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

ONE100HUNDRED

Today I'm going to revisit the events of the 100 rounds ran for Charity. The lessons, the challenges and the experiences. This is going to be mainly about the run because there are so much more things to talk about when it's about the whole journey of raising $10,000 for Charity. Also I'm still looking for more people to realize the ten thousand dollar donation so the whole story is not completed yet..

It was an amazing and very emotional experience for me. A week before the run I went to visit the home to remind myself of why I am doing this and who I was doing this for. It was only then that I realized that the idea was not only as big as the giving but the also the possible impact it could have influenced others to have the courage and ability to do the same. I went with a bigger vision: to give in a very big way and to empower others to be able to do that too.

Anyone who wanted to give in a very big way could have come up with the idea. Anyone who had prepared and planned could have succeeded in the hundred rounds.And even if they didn't run they could have come up with another idea to raise the money. Anyone who had seen the needs of these people could have wanted to help. Anyone could have weighed the options of doing something for someone against other things and decided that they wanted to do something for others. Anyone could have done it. And if more of us do it, then even more of us would do it. When everyone starts to contribute and give I think there would be more than enough for everyone. When we all become generous and give in creative ways there will be no lack. We will find homes, food and necessities for everyone. Because of that we can only become better because we have better to focus on instead of ourselves. And good giving will not even be called Charity. It would become a way of life. We would build greater civilizations and greater wisdom would flow. As old conventional resources deplete we will discover better and longer lasting resources. It would be Utopian but not impossible.

And yes on the 2nd of October, after all the planning and organizing it was finally going to happen. Close friends came to support and help.. Bao Wen came with her camera to take videos of the run, Jeraine came with her camera to take pictures, Kai came to help with the water point, Valerie came to run the last 50 rounds with me, my whole family came to support and make sure I was alright. And many more friends came: louis, Seow Wei with his two adorable kids, rachel, sherman, dax, mus who was a student of a school I went to speak in, lay ping a really nice office friend with a big heart, David who was my friend since primary school, and Kang my ns sergeant. :)

I woke up at 4am feeling quite nervous about the run. I prayed hard for it not to rain the night before and for everything to be carried out smoothly. My dad woke up early just to drive me there, yes he was quite worried about everything(which was sweet).

The thing is I've been training for the run since june but not when it was nearing the date of the run. Work has been quite busy for me to keep the training consistent. My dad would advise me on what to eat and frequently remind me about conditioning my body for the run. He believes I could have done more in terms of the preparation.

It was quite funny at the start when bao wen and jeraine were taking pictures of me in different stretching positions. It made me feel like a star and it felt so giggly. But it was wonderful.

When we were all ready, mus and me started running. It wasn't like a grand start maybe because we started slow. I figured if we ran like we could run forever we could finish it.

Round one. Probably the easiest and the fastest round to finish. Kai was already ready with a cup of water just in case I need it. I just smiled and told him that it's still really early.

By the time it was round 5 I've picked up a really good rythmn in terms of how I breathed and the pace of my steps. At this time there was a temptation to go faster but I had to remind myself that there were 95 more rounds to go. So I made sure that my optimism didn't spoil it for the rest of the run (which you will come to understand is a very wise thing to do).

The first signs of thirst came at around round 9. Kai passed me the water but I spilled most of it as I jogged and tried to drink at the same time. Most of my trainings didn't have people to pass me water so I drank at the end of my jogs. But Kai, thanks so much for your support! Really appreciate your enthusiasm and commitment at the water point;).

Everything from round 25 onwards became about taking my mind off the number of rounds left. I just needed to run like I could run forever. Friends running with me was really encouraging. Jeraine came up on one of those rounds and ran with me. :) She said that her gym sessions has really paid off. Jeraine has been a friend for very long. This friendship counts for much more than acquaintance. For jeraine and me we exchanged inspirations, support and acknowledgment. We grew through a couple of events together and this was no exception.

As I ran against the flow of the other people running, I had to side step quite a couple of times. There was this uncle who seemed like a real frequent user of the track that didn't want to compromise at all. He purposely crashed head on with me and screamed something like: please lah! Run with the flow! But that was my point. First of all I didn't mean to anger him and secondly I had good reasons to run "anti-flow". We were there to create an awareness. And if I run against the flow people would know I'm coming. Especially the later parts of the hundred rounds when I'm tired I might not even look ahead when running (even though by the time I was finished we were the only people there).

By round 30 many people were at the stadium exercising already. There were many uncles and aunties following an exercise routine with some really funny music. My parents, brother and sisters and friends started helping me clear out lanes one and two for me to run. It felt so weird at first but later on there were people smiling at me and an uncle even shouted "jiayou!" a couple of times. People started hearing that I was doing the 100 rounds for Charity.

All this while, everyone was so on the ball about knowing what I needed like water and power gel. It was so much care that people started worrying about me. Obviously the pace has slowed tremendously and I didn't want to push too hard before the 3/4 mark. Too much water was being given to me and I think I had an overdose of sugars as well.

As the 50 round mark approached, I could see Valerie preparing to join me. There something about seeing one more person that excited me. Maybe because the rounds around the same track started to take it's mundane toll on my mind. Even before before the 50 round mark I asked Valerie whether she was going to run with me(just to make sure).

Valerie's promise and addition to the run proved to be one of the more important elements to my completion. She was assuring and confident in the pace. Encouraging and never overbearing. As amazing as we all know her, she always impresses us more. With her I felt happy to start having fun again. We chatted as we jogged. I told her how much I appreciated her company and thanked her before proceeding to tell her how the run is going. Then I had a revelation. Like me the people who live in the Red Cross Home for The Disabled seem to be like running in circles. Life is quite hard when you cannot do many things that you should be doing yourself. I remembered how one of the beneficiaries smiled when we visited him. Friendship and company must have been such a big part in their life. I also remembered the Red Cross Home of the Disabled staff telling me that the beneficiaries needed many befrienders. People who could come and talk, or do little things like read to them.

That made me realize that giving in a very big way is so important not just in monetary sense of help but in spreading the word of the existence of people who need care and friendship. I've volunteered with YMCA's Minds outings to know the importance of friends to beneficiaries; actually to any human being. With disabilities it sometimes seems so hard to converse and know someone. It's like running rounds forever and hoping that the person you are running with will come by again the next round. Volunteers have such an important role in terms of enriching the lives of the beneficiaries.

At round 63, under the bright rays of the Sun it began to rain! I was shocked and speechless at the start.

This happened the first time I wanted to run the hundred rounds. It rained cats and dogs and flooded a portion of the tracks on the 17th of July; the first attempt at the 100 rounds. No, I didn't get to run. I turned to Valerie in an almost upset tone to complain. Then I decided to turn to God to stop the rain. Under my breathe I uttered: please lord, stop the rain don't do this to me. Around about this time Victoria came chasing from behind asking us to stop running. Victoria is a really nice Red Cross staff who has been liaising with me and organizing the first aid team for me to do the run. I think she had the responsibility to ask us to stop the run as it might be dangerous. I ran a little faster at first and then slowed down to tell her that I'll finish another round first. At the start I just wanted to continue and finish the run, then I realized there were people running with me. If I was the only person running and I decided to continue I guess that is alright. But I shouldn't risk anyone else getting injured; who came to support me.

As we approached the line where I started I looked around at the 3 or 4 people running and asked if we should stop. I can't say that at that point in time I didn't want to stop. There was a little voice in me that started saying: dude you're not going to make it! Give it up. Get some rest and try again another day. Look at the state you're in! The pace you're running!

While my questions of whether to stop remained unanswered from the friends that were running with me, almost magically the rain stopped. As surprising as the way it started, the rain ended quite abruptly too. There was no doubt then whether we were going to continue the run. I don't remember being drenched for very long so I guess the winds must have dried our clothes pretty fast.

We were running at a very slow and steady pace. It was really great to have company and different people running with me at different rounds. Seow Wei brought his two kids! They were so cute! :) Lay Ping came too. Her smile really brightened up the stadium. Every additional person that came seemed to lift my spirits. It just goes to show that together everyone achieves more.

There was an additional point to note though: too much worry might lead to disaster. In short there were football players who were training on the field as I ran. One of them told my parents that I wasn't sweating enough and that I should be drinking more water. The next thing I know I was being fed water at every turn! The thing is when you run it's good to sip some water but not too much. Everyone was probbing me to drink till I was almost going to vomitt water. Not only will water dilute my rate of energy production, it made me uncomfortable! I was just sharing with Valerie that the water level was coming up to my throat. So we started to reject all the water offered. My mom was the hardest to refuse because she had a worried look on her face. Bao Wen knew better than to drown me with water so she poured water on me instead of asking me to drink. But there was one point she asked me to put ice water on my head -_-!!! My dad just kept giving me some health supplement drinks.

I don't remember at which point my legs started cramping up but my left leg cramped first. And then a few more rounds my right leg cramped twice. It gave me reason to have more banana! :)

Also at that point in time I saw a group of people walking into the stadium! Actually someone alerted me of their arrival. They were the Red Cross nurses and volunteers in their white polo shirts carrying bright green pompoms. I ran a little faster when I saw them and then slowed down to rub on some Alleviate (a sort of heat rub to relax my leg muscles). I must say it really felt better after I put some of it on.

The Red Cross people cheered a couple of cheers and when all the cheers ran out they just shouted my name. The last ten rounds was easier on my mind but harder on my body. Easier because I knew that I'm going to finish it and harder because I felt the strain in my legs. But everyone's presence made me smile. At one point in time I really couldn't stop myself from smiling; which was awesome.

The amazing feeling of the final round is indescribable. Jianwei, my sister who made the round count flip charts made the 100th round like a flag which my mom gave me to hold as I ran the last round. It was finally accomplished. It was quite overwhelming for me in terms of what we have all accomplished together :) Check out the Video at www.one100hundred.blogspot.com

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Friday, October 08, 2010

I have so much backlog (is there what you call it?) to post on my blog. As you should know by now, I don’t post about everything that is happening in my life. Not that I don’t want to but. Most of the time nowadays even if I wanted to there is no time for me to sit down and think about blogging and put into words how I feel.

Having said that I’m going to try to “payback” everything as much as I can ok? Yups so there are a couple of events that happened but for today I just like to talk about Brent. Brent Williams, one of my most treasured and respected mentor. Recently he came to Singapore to visit the assists and do some business with me. It was exciting not just because I was waiting for him to come Singapore to see how we can partner in the property business but also just to have conversations with him for as much as I can. Every time I spent time with him I’ll be taught something that I could have never come up with myself. You know how you feel like someone is so “in bar” that you want to be around him as much as you can to learn?

Basically I set up a couple of appointments for him to connect with a couple of people so that we could have a few partners that knew about the investors market and provide us with help in terms of how we might be able to reach our potential buyers. The meetings were fruitful. We made the connections but there were no real contracts or agreements being made. I guess that’s how business looks like during first contact and relationship building. I learnt so much from just watching Brent talk.

I was tempted to describe Brent as a super salesman but he is not. He is a super communicator. Master conversationalist. He knows what to say, how to say it and when to say it. It’s like watching an architect, designing a building and then shows it to the contractor but goes on to build the house himself (if you get what I mean). And the way he debriefs how each appointment went was just mind blowing. I feel so small and worthless. But that’s the other thing. He doesn’t allow me to feel that way. He would edify me every other time. And he really means it when he says it. Like he would say something like: “Steve I really like how you said.. it just shows that..” Him substantiating his praise just makes it credible. You know like how sometimes you receive praise but you don’t feel it. Brent made me feel that I gave great value. He is my life changing friend. I’ve known him for 7 years and it seems I know less than 30% of what he is able to do.

I invited Brent for one of the talks I was doing at Junyuan Secondary School this week. And he sat at the back to listen to how I presented to the students. The reason I wanted him to see it is because I wanted him (world class speaker) to teach me how improve myself; I do have expectations. He asked me a couple of times to send him videos of me presenting but I didn’t have a camcorder (which is an excuse cos I could have just went out and bought it now that I have income).

When we finally got to sit down over dinner that night he gave me so much to think about. He had taken notes on things that I could improve. From the setup of the talk to pre-frames for each section, from emphasis of statements to commanding the interest and drawing out the curiousity. When he was telling me all that, I just had to listen intensely with eye contact and my mouth open lol.. He told me about world class presenting and what it took to be that. It was reality with magic.

Right at this moment I’m still processing the things he told me. He said he had all the notes about my presentation in his ipad and he is going to email me. When that email comes in I might just zone out from everything and go into study it lol. Yea till the next update, stay true and enjoy yourself.

(I’m going to talk about the Charity run next.. it’s mad stuff by the way)
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Friday, September 24, 2010

A not so quick update

Hey! Haha finally a not so rushed blog post after a not so long break from the last post. There are so many things that i haven't talked about that i should talk about. Where should i start?

There was this young man who was living my dreams. He was 18 and he owns a chocolate business. I'm not jealous or anything but i heard he was coming to Singapore to attend the What Makes a Youth Champion Forum. At this forum, they invited very young and successful people to talk about what are the most important things in their life or what made them that successful. Amongst them were a young man who climbed mountains, a little girl who started a really successful shampoo brand and the chocolatier i was talking about; and many others. But i realized that the dates of the event was going to crash with my Empower U in Jakarta!

Long story short, i chose to fly to Jakarta (i love running programs). But before i flew i wrote a letter to him to tell him i wanted to become a chocolatier and it would be fantastic if i could meet him. This guy is from the UK and her started making chocolate when he was like 12!! Yea when i got back to Singapore after the amazing program in Jakarta, i received an email from him saying he wants his chocolate to come to Singapore.

I'm now doing some chocolate research for him. Actually i'm doing this research for my own knowledge as well. But it's a magical feeling to be doing this. You know, if i didn't join mindchamps, i'll most probably missed him. Yea it's like the law of attraction. Like i was here for a reason. Like you were suppose to be reading this. And you were suppose to look back one day saying i knew Stephan before he made the world' best chocolate and i believed him! :)

Cheers to you! n_n
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Thursday, September 16, 2010

Quick Updates

Really quick updates!

Currently i'm undertaking 5 projects:

1) one100hundred charity project
2) Chocolate research!
3) Property investment event
4) Passive Massive Residuel income business
5) $200,000 business for school programs

Everything has been great (:.

I'll give a more eloborate post by the end of this month! :)
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Wednesday, July 07, 2010

Thoughts and Missions

You don't know how happy i am about being approved to do the run by the SSC. I'm probably in cloud 10 right now. Giving in a Very Big Way (of the one100hundred challenge) has been my main concern over the past two months. In fact i've been dreaming about running that event a couple of times. Sometimes i dream of running it successfully getting the 100 donors successfully. Sometimes i have nightmares about not being able to do the run. Worries about not getting the 100 people.

I believe there are at least 46 people out there that i haven't spoken to. I'll need to get them to know about this somehow or another. I need prayers. I need strength. I need passion. And i need action.

Pray for me! :)
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Tuesday, July 06, 2010

one100hundred Charity Run

Recently my mind has been clouded with the thoughts of doing the one100hundred run. At first this idea excited me. Then it started to scare me. Then it inspired me. With the saga of permission getting in Singapore, I wasn’t very encouraged by the SSC’s decision to want me to postpone the run. I mean this is for a good cause and I was so excited to do it on the 3rd of July..

Well no point in talking about that. Pray for me everyone! We need to do this run on the 17th of July at 5am at Bedok Stadium.

Updated*

Great news! The SSC just approved the waiver for using Bedok stadium! :)
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