Motivation- Does it last?

Hi all n_n this will be one of the shorter posts on antiphons because i just want to touch briefly something really interesting that i thought about today...

I was thinking about programs. Not the average ones but the great ones which always leave people all energetic and motivated to do anything and everything for success. And being in so many of them i start to wonder and think, does any of these last? Many people (especially my parents) are always coming up to me and telling me: 'This kind of feeling and knowledge only empowers for that moment in that environment for that period of time... come back into the real world'. And in defense i would always in my mind say that they do not understand. However seeing so many programs go past and so many people come and go i started to question it. And so i was on the web searching for answers and i came across something...

Zig Ziglar says, "Many folks claim this motivation stuff doesn't last. Well, neither does taking a bath. That's why we recommend it DAILY."

Suddenly i was struck by how clear and easy the answer to that question and doubt was... People don't get motivated only at the turning points in their lives, or at the programs, they constantly are empowered and motivated at different points in their lives to be more successful. In some way i experienced it as well but i wasn't aware i was often empowered again and again by friends teachers, the stuff that i read and so much more. Does motivation last? Only if you give it daily doses. n_n

The only person who can motivate you is yourself. You are your greatest motivation.

Never let what happened to you determine your self-worth

Never let what happens to you determine your self-worth

I was just reading someone's msg to me when it suddenly struck me how many people were affected by what happened to them in the past. I guess many of us is. It is true that every single thing that happens and the choices we make will influence and affect our lives deeply. However, having said that, we must not allow any of our past to curb our future. It is with the future that one can create something wonderful. Four years ago i attended this really great 5 day camp (The Superteen Holiday Camp) and there i found my single most Empowering and exciting thing anyone could ever learn. It is this: the past does not equal to the future.

You can create a whole new way of thinking and life anytime you want. Don't be upset with anyone or anything that would not allow you to live your life to the fullest. If we could just understand this we would be so much more happier and freer and much more forward looking.

We are a amazing creation and until you understand how big you are and how wonderful you can be you'll never be able to live your life to what you truely want inside. What is going through your mind now when you're reading this? 'But without what i had i had i will never be who i want to be.. It made me like this..'

You can be more if you just let go..

Everyone matters

I've been busy with school and other things in my life that i've been ignorant to what people think and feel. I realized its very essential that i acknowledge and apologize because i want great relationships with people. I treasure people and want them to treasure me as well. I've learnt that for great relationships, its not the things that you've said and done, its the times that when that person expects you to be there, the times you spent together.

Its very much so for people in general as well, we need to learn that everyone in our life matters and we need to care about how we are affecting and influencing everyone of them. Its critical especially when you mean something in people's lives. There are many things that i've taken for granted and this is one of those times when i relfect upon what i have done that might not be right and in the course of doing it i affect many people. Ignorance sometimes or rather many times causes lots of misconceptions and problems. Relationships are always a two way thing. Everyone wants great relationships but the question is what have we done to create great relationships?

Everyone matters.

Everyone that comes into our life matters. Learn to appreciate everyone around you and just increase that awareness on how each of us feels and thinks. Its about how we make each one significant in our lives and making ourselves significant in theirs. I'm learning that as well. Before we end..

Everyone who knows me, you guys mean a world to me and i appreciate and thank you for caring and letting me be something in your lives. I want to continue creating that great relationship we have and make it better than it has ever been. Please forgive me for my ignorance and the mistakes that i make at times. Let's be closer than we have ever been. Love you all. n_n

Actually i'm not really sure why i titled this page "coping with exam stress", becuase i don't remember exams stressing me. However, i do feel stressed sometimes and it really affects how i feel and how i perform in whatever i do. So i guess the question is why? Why do we feel stressed and anxious? Why do we feel this weird and uncomfortable feeling during times when we need to be our best? Well i found my answer! n_n

Stress is in fact something that is associated with fear. And for those of you who have been to the Empower U program, you would know that fear is:False Evidence Appearing Real. And stress is a worst form of fear. And what happens when you do have stress is your mind come up with so many different scenerios of what is going to happen and in a short span of time, stress obstructs the normal processes in your body that keeps you 'steady'. One of the best ways to eliminate stress is not to cope with it!
The only way to do something is to do it. :p One of the best ways to eliminate stress is to eliminate stress. Do you see the difference i see in the words: cope and eliminate?

Some of you might be reading this and going: hmm.. but that doesn't help!!! What do you mean to eliminate stress is to eliminate stress?

Well... let me think...






Thinking...





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Ok here's what i've observed. For the last few minutes (applying to those who have stress) you've just felt much better by just reading and wanting to know how to eliminate stress or maybe just being interested in how i'll screw up trying to explain this @_@. Maybe you think i did. Maybe you think i didn't... Do think about it:

The only way to do something is to do something.
The only way to dance is to dance.
The only way to love is to love.
The only way to get an A is to get an A.
The only way to finish is to finish.
The only way to eliminate stress is to eliminate stress.

The only way to live your life the way you want to live it?

Is to live your life the way you want to live it n_n.

Never spend time... take time...

I once came across this phrase, and it said this: "Never spend time...Take time..." It has always dawned upon me when i decide to put something off till tomorrow i might never get the chance to do it. And i'm a person who do a awful lot of planning and sometimes its just hard to actually do every single thing that you've planned to do. My advise? Never spend time... Take time. Time is not money. Time is everything. You'll never get it back if you let it slip pass you. Please, take time.

There's always a first time n_n

n_n I never done this before but hey there's always a first time for everything. What i'm going to do is i'm going to try to describe what had happened to me for the last few weeks... It is not exactly exciting but it has certainly been one of those periods of my life that i look back and smile or maybe... cry.

Let me see where should i start? Ok 5 weeks ago i just started my holidays. It was as usual, a funny kind of monday morning, probably because i am always waking up with alot of things which i need to do, many of which i didn't want to do. But that monday was kind of different i woke up needing not to do anything but wanting to do lots of things. The day really excited me, partly because i had no homework and no exams the next day (which was quite very uncommon.

The first thing i did in the morning was to go to swim. It was great. Come to think of it almost every single day in my holidays i went swimming. Sometimes even twice a day. Oh man i think i'm doing this all wrong. Does it sound boring? Ok maybe i should just tell you about the highlights...

1)Enjoyed lots of time with myself
2)Developed a really great friendship with Kai
3)Went to church
4)Attended NAC (National achievers congress)
5)Went for Empower U (A weekend course which really rocks)
6)Thought about someone
7)Met Kai and got to know Mandy and had a new hair cut
8)Thought about someone
9)Went out with kai a few more times
10)Read some books
11)Jogged alot
12)Swam alot
13)Thought to myself
14)Graduated one of the classes
15)Got stabbed by someone
16)Thought about someone
17)Cried for someone
18)Didn't feel good
19)Got encouraged by someone
20)Felt better
21)Became worst again
22)Went with kai and hafiz and mandy and LI and marcus
23)Joked alot
24)Did some stupid stuff
25)Made someone feel bad (i didn't mean it)
26)Enjoyed the time with friends
27)Tried very hard to forget..
28)Did some crazy stunts
29)Tried to date someone and
30)and coached Kai

Can't forget...

Oh man what a holiday!!! Now i'm sure there's lots of things to tagg on my tag board lol... erms let's talk about happy stuff... clauz#7 n_n. It was the first time i went to a salon to get a haircut lol. Oh man it was such a nice feeling. The setting the atmosphere, the tea (served but i didn't drink it) the girl on my right who glanced at me now and then lol. In the end i dreaded to leave that place; i got a better haircut than kai and he was so jealous. Now my hair is all in a mess again lol n_n. Anyways kai brought me to meet another friend, her name's charissa.

Me and kai just climbed this "drain hill" lol urban ninja rocks. Anyways charissa was really nice giving us ice cream and water. Had a really great time just feeling weird infront of two girls i just knew for a few hours and played the piano for them (after much persuarion from Mandy and Kai) n_n Hoped they liked it. I think Mandy did lol.

This is like the weirdest post ever on antiphons. I guess there's always a first time for everything lol. n_n

The rabbit and the dogs

Ok people so sorry for the late posting here's a really great story i just heard n_n:

There was once a hunter and this hunter had two hunting dogs. And everyday the dogs will follow the hunter to hunt for little animals. When the hunter shoots an animal the two dogs will run and bring back the shot animal for the hunter. So on a typical day again the hunter goes out hunting with his two dogs.

The hunter spots a rabbit scurrying among the bushes not far from them so he took an aim and shot it at its legs. The rabbit was shot. And the hunter orders the two dogs to bring back the little rabbit. What happened was the hunter waited and waited. The dogs didn't come back...

10minutes...

20minutes...

half an hour...

And they came back panting... without the rabbit. And they said this: "Master we're so sorry the rabbit was too fast for us... We did out best."

And in the distance the rabbit just scurried back home bleeding at the right foot and he tells his family of what happened. Then the rabbit's wife asked him: "Oh My!!! How did you run that fast? You were shot!"

And than the rabbit panting heavily said this...

Ok now pay attention guys n_n

It said: "If i never run with all I've got i would have been rabbit stew by now..."

The question i want to ask is this. Are you the rabbit or the dog? Do you do your best or do you give it all you've got? n_n