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Saturday, July 29, 2006
I have a question...
For this post instead of having something explained or trying to explain something I've decided to ask a question that has been bothering me for quite some time now. What is it that makes relationships work? How does love happen? Can anyone really explain it? Why does it choose its own time? And since we talked about choices before, can we choose to fall in love as well? Or have we been doing that all along? If we can choose who to like and who not to why then is it that it bothers so many of us so much. The antiphons to the timing and how it happens for love really puzzles me. I cannot grasp any structure in it. Maybe it wouldn't be as wonderful if it had a structure and method. However it being not structural and being understood is a root of all its pain and problems too. What do you think?
I went jogging a few days ago. Usually, once or twice a week, but i had stopped for two weeks to do weights instead. I'll jog from my home to east coast, make a turn at a slope up and back home again. It is quite a distance. Remember the first time i jogged that distance, i was with two neighbours; i was drop dead tired when i finished. I swear, if i had tried that distance for the first time alone i would not have made it. This time i went jogging alone. I've done it a couple of times, with friends and alone. However, it seemed harder than any time i have attempted to run that distance. Certainly after every run i will always feel this great sense of achievement. Because no matter how easy it was or seemed, i did run more than i would have compared to the mentality that i use to have. But it was much harder...
My feet and legs just felt so much heavier and it never occured to me that i had become heavier, and i mean much heavier. I was tired at the first quarter of the run and the rest was just a drag. I began thinking. What was it that made it such a hard run? My breathing was right. I had to really push myself to lift my legs and i couldn't figure out why it is so hard now. As i was enduring all that, i began to think what was it that made it different this time now. Then it became clear...
Long distance jogging is very challenging especially when you are jogging ALONE. As i jogged it became clear to me that long distance jogging is endurance training made easier when you have someone jogging with you.
SYNERGY. There is power within a team of people that is attracted through the creation of a common objective. It is important to understand that the people around you are your effective energy empowering how you can do more than what you can do. Team dynamics in jogging is just a simple illustration. There are many things that can be done better through having more people around you, understanding what you are going through and working with you or sometimes just being there. BUT be careful with the people whom you work with.
I'm very fortunate to have many people around me to built me up and help me through many things. The next time you want to do something, think about who can be included in the project that would greatly help.
AND, more importantly, if you are going through a really hard time, never shut yourself out of the world. The more you talk with people, the more people understand, the stronger you'll come out to be. You always have friends.
Have you ever felt that whatever you do is not going right? What about the times when you just felt totally awesome and great and when everything just seem to fit in so easily? I always wonder at the amazing emotions that we all go through. What is it that makes us feel this way? I don't know. But it is affecting how we do every single day of our lives. In raising this awareness, i would choose to feel great than to feel sick or sad or bored or tired or disgusted or lost. I would choose to feel happy, excited, purposeful, energetic, healthy.. i would choose to feel in love.
But much of how we feel is sometimes uncontrollable. Wait, how much of what we feel is uncontrollable? Is that correct? We are wielded by our circumstances? No thats not what i learnt growing up, we are the masters of our fate. If so what is it that allows us to control our emotions?
I'm privilaged to be in University at this age, i get to learn so many things so early... One of my professors, James Csipak gave me the answer to this. In order to feel the way you want to feel, you have to do the things you want to do. He noted that Joseph Campbell once said this: "Follow Your Bliss". It didn't really get to me until a few days of thinking about it. What this means to me is that you don't live your life pleasing everybody. Start living your life the way you want it to be. Do the things you want to do and enjoy them. Because doing the things you truely want to do will make you feel the way you want to feel.
If there something you've been wanting to do for many years, go do it. If you have someone you really love but never got a chance to tell him or her tell them. If you have something that you really want but never went to get them, start working on getting them. In this way, you'll not only be able to feel the way you want to but also you'll be doing your best in what you do....
I remember coaching someone (also in a few other cases talking to people) about clearly knowing what you want in life as a key to acheiving what you want. They usually have two kinds of reactions: 1) They'll start telling me what they want or 2)They'll think really hard and finnally tell me that they're not sure. One thing's for sure...
Knowing what you want is really important. This is because the only way to get yourself to consistently think and act in certain ways that pertains to your success in the field that you want is to know why you are doing what you do. Many people don't know why they do what they do and many more people know why they do what they do even though what they do do not put them in the path of what they want. (what a mouthful n_n) If you think carefully this stuff really makes sense. And the only reason that you do what you do is to get the result you want. That is why we need to know explicitly what we want or who we want to be or where we want to go. Then the next question you ask is how do i know if i really want what i want?
The answer to that question is that you'll never know until you get it. So keep fighting for what you want in life and don't ever give up on anything. If you really don't have anything in mind yet keep on trying new things and read up on anything that catches your eye. Remember to make what you intend to have in life not what you might get, make it what you will get. Make it that...
