Wealth of Words

I recently was in a conversation with a few people, which i really enjoy because i love talking to people, and observing people. And there was like a flash back to what i've learnt 4 years ago.. What happened was one of the persons in this conversationkept coming up with an idea and then say: "But... i don't know... if it'll work...that is just what i think" and then motioned the idea away. What happened just then and there was that she suddenly appeared to have such a low perspective about her very own ideas and very own opinion. Therefore, i told her it was not good to say "i don't know" all the time and that her idea was very sound and in fact useful to what we were saying. I do not know why she always say what she says but i know that everytime she talks like that, she is falling bit by bit.

What i learnt 4 years ago was that there are certain words which we say every single day that defines who we are and whether we will succeed in everyday situations AND also in everyday problems. You see, words affects our everyday life. What you say is what you think and what you think is what you'll get. Recently i read from one of my university assignments about a quote said by Ralph Waldo Emerson which went like this: "With his will, or against his will, a man reveals himself with every word."

Now is not that very true? Many people are not aware that what they are saying affects their perspective of the world AND their living in the world. You see, there is Wealth in your words. If you speak words that are motivating, exciting or empowering, you will most probably be living it! If you do otherwise, you'll most probably be living according to it as well.

So, what is the kind of life you want to live? And how do you want to be seen by others, more importantly how do you want to see yourself? Remember this is not about who you are now, but what you want to become; that you want to change the way you speak or you want to increase your awareness of how you speak. It is through your wealth of words that you'll obtain your wealth in life.

Broadly defined, this could mean that if you say the right things you'll succeed in the right areas. I'm not perfect, i choose the wrong words everyday! But I'm increasing that awarenbess and changing for the better.

Thinka about it. n_n

Perspectives

One looks through the mirror,
one sees it this way.
One looks through the tunnel,
one sees it both ways.
One looks in one direction,
and don't see many ways.
One talks about it,
one keeps it that way.

Reasons for choice, Choice for reason?

I found myself to be quite contradictory when i was talking to people because of two conflicting ideas of my strongest beliefs about motivation an how one achieves what he or she wants. Basically these two ideas form the basis of what makes a person do what one does.

The first idea is that of how strong we have to make reasons for the things we need to do something for us to do well and succeed in it. It is the illustration i described about a guy jumping out of the dug grave? Yes. It is about how much emotion and importance we associate something with what we need to get done.

The conflicting belief on the other hand was that of not having a reason to do something. Success in most cases did not come out of reasons, success comes out of choice. Why did you succeed? Because you chose to. In fact i think to choose, one has more power to do what one needs to get done than to give a reason for doing it, no matter how strong it is.

So effectively, i was teaching people these two different conflicting idealogies!!! It did take sometime before i finally understand how it really works. So here is my revelation！！！ n_n

I found out when teaching certain people, when talking to certain people, i'll tell them to associate reasons but for others i teach them the power of choice. Only up to a certain stage of maturity or understanding of life can we start to understand the need for reason and the power of choice. It is not up to the coach to chose which is best for the coachee but it is up to the design of the coachee's make of motivation for the success of each different method. You see, i was not really contradicting myself when i teach these two ideas, because they both work! But different people will need a different method of empowerment. This means that it is up to you to understand which you should be for and against.

Up to now, i will not give anyone the idea of the power of choice in doing something if they had reached a certain understanding of the inner motivations acting upon us. The fact is, for someone to will the power of choice, one must truely understand that reason don't matter. It is in the choice that makes a success.

Note to self: Many readers might not be getting this post very well. But for those that do it will make great changes in their life;)

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